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cafe chat ~ step of faith?

Saturday, August 16th, 2008

Tell about one time in the past 5 years where you took a HUGE Step of Faith in your journey with the Lord. What was the outcome?

There have been several in the last five years. Probably more than in my entire life. Times ten.

But the one that immediately comes to mind is our step out to leave our church. We loved our church family so much. They were a rock when we were with Izzy in the hospital. Our faith and beliefs took a turn after dealing with this situation and after much studying we came to realize our beliefs just didn’t line up with what was taught at our church. We struggled with this decision for so long and tried visiting other churches looking for a fit. It just wasn’t happening. Finally, we visited a church called “Family of Faith.” The name alone appealed to us and what our search was all about. I think the first time we visited that church we knew that it was at least in the range of what we were looking for. After a visit from the Pastor shortly after our visit, we knew we had to make the move. He summed it up when he said, “You’ve already left.” In our hearts we had. Not the friends or the family, just the religion. I still love the church family there and have missed fellowshipping with them. Matt and I look at each other when the message in church is so clear to us and know by that gaze that we are in the right place… and we thank God daily for continuing to guide our journey.


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Monday, August 4th, 2008

What is one thing that you absolutely love about friendships? Why? On the other side, what is one thing that you find absolutely difficult when it comes to friendships? Why?

I love having people to talk to… love hearing about their lives and families. I love meeting for lunch and talking and talking. It’s great to have someone to call when you have something good going on you want to share, or something bad you want to get another perspective about.

I love my internet friends. I love visiting their lives almost daily and having them visit me. It is so fun to finally meet a couple of those friends. It was like we had been friends for so long! It’s strange to explain to non-bloggers….but bloggy friends are great friends!

I guess the main difficulty I have with friendship is finding time to enjoy my friends. Julie was in town last week and I didn’t get to see her as much as I would have liked… Mendy called and left a message last week and I haven’t had a chance to call and talk to her yet. I did have lunch with Melody but hadn’t seen her in a long time. I haven’t seen Jana since her birthday in February. She even lives in Oklahoma! Laura and I have a standing lunch date because our birthdays are very close… but I haven’t seen her in a while either. I see my friends who go to church more often than anyone I guess. And then there are my friends who are in house… Matt and the kids. They are fun to be around. My mom and dad and brother Mike and his wife Terri are great friends too.


cafe chat … priorities

Monday, July 21st, 2008


Name what you think should be your first 5 priorities in life? Then order those priorities the way they actually are at present in your own life. Do they match up? Why or why not? If needed, what is one thing that you can do today that will help your two lists match up?

Should be:

  1. God. Putting Him first, guarding my heart & mind, being a servant, having faith…
  2. Family. Matt and kids. Loving, nurturing, providing needs.
  3. Home. Keeping things clean & organized. Cooking healthy meals.
  4. Others. Being a servant, willing to serve, focusing on others.
  5. me. Blogging, shopping, etc.

I think in reality I am a little higher on the list than I should be. Sad but true. Why? Because I forget to remind myself of what my actual priorities are and the reasons behind them. I think step one to making sure my priorities line up with the way I live my life would be to look at the priority list daily. Probably first thing each day.


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Sunday, June 22nd, 2008

As Christians we read in Ecclesiastes 3

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:

a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance

Knowing this, we are aware that there will be times when our hearts hurt and break. Each of us has experienced that heart break in one form or another. Thinking back on your life, what makes your heart break, and why?

I heart memes, I heart kim, and I heart cafe chat…BUT it seems like every one lately has taken me back to Isabelle’s accident! Hmmm… I tried to think of something different that is heart breaking to write about but this just trumps it all. From seeing my child dead, to giving her cpr, to the nightmare three month hospital stay with all the terrible happenings, to missing the other three kids, to seeing the pain in their eyes, to seeing them cope with it and move on with life, to finding pictures (pre-accident) of Izzy tucked away in their rooms, knowing they look at them and are haunted by them. From the what if’s and where we would be had this not happened, to the look how much we’ve grown in the Lord… from not dwelling in the past, to trusting God with Izzy and our future. From the doctors negative prognosis’ to God’s perfect plan. She is healed in Jesus’ name.

It is all heartbreaking. All of it. But, we have God… and He’s in the heart healing business!


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Saturday, June 7th, 2008

If you could go back in time to a pivotal point in your young life and give yourself one word/sentence of advice, and know that you would accept the advice, what would it be?

Imagine what a gift it would be if we could actually go back in time and give ourselves advice…Hmm… Of course we cannot, but I think this is a great question for us to ponder. Although, I think many of us would agree that we learned more from the mistakes we made, but wouldn’t it be nice to not have to learn the “hard way” in some situations? Have fun with the question this week.

Whew… there would be so many words of advice to give me! Too many :). I think the main thing I would go back and redo would be the circumstances around Izzy’s accident. I would go back to the time we were having that pool installed and tell myself to put in many security features, an alarm on the pool, a fence directly around the pool with a lock, and an alarm on the door. All to prevent what has happened to Izzy. This lesson has not been fun to learn the hard way, and especially not for sweet sweet Isabelle. Please listen to me now. If you have a pool, any size from kiddie to koi pond, from blow up to in ground… Take extra precautions to keep your child safe. Treat that body of water as if it were a loaded gun lying on the ground there. Don’t let them near it. Never let them out of your site if there is unsecured water. Take your children to swimming lessons early, very young so that they at least would know what to do if they fall into water. There were five drownings in our city alone last week. It happens. A lot. Too much. Don’t let your child be next. Please!

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Saturday, May 31st, 2008

What are some lies out in the world (secular views) today about women that contradict what God says in His word about how women should be/act? Diving a little deeper…What are some lies that are still out there in our Christian circles about women? (Feel free to talk from a single woman’s point of view or a married woman’s point of view)This is a really great question! The first thought that pops into my mind is the idea that we should look out for number one. Number one is not me. Number one is God. So many things follow that idea and dictate how we live. It is really hard to live in this world and not be of the world. The importance of clothes, designer purses, shoes, homes, furniture, cars, blah blah blah. We put so much emphasis on the way we look and how people perceive us, when in the big scheme of things and the way God intended they simply don’t matter. I will confess I get pulled into this catch too. I use shopping sometimes as a type of therapy. I get happy when I buy things. It’s wrong. And bad. (p.s. Sorry God.)There are so many other lies that contradict God’s word.

I’ve made it a goal today to weed the back flower bed and have decided to put on my suit and weed until I’m too hot and then swim a minute and weed some more… so I’ll ponder this question while I’m sweating glowing!

Oh btw… the interview was fine. I was pretty nervous, and even more nervous when it was time for the news to come on. They did a good job editing me and I overall liked the information given and although it sorta made me cringe to hear my own voice, it made me feel good to put the new out there. And… Matt didn’t make fun of me (he mentioned that I look pale, but then I think my lack of sun has kept me younger looking) and my daddy called and said, “I’m sure proud of you, I may not tell you that often, but I am.” Sweet huh?

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Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

What is a positive tradition or godly character trait that you learned from your extended family that you hope to pass down to your own family?

There are so many great things I learned from my family that I hope my children learn as well. From my mother, I learned selflessness. I’m not near as good as it as she is, but I learned that it is better to put others first. She always has an open seat at her dinner table and there is always enough food for one more person. I learned that it is better to give than receive and that you should always be thankful for anything given to you. Which means always send a note or at the very least make a phone call saying thank you.

From my dad I learned that even when things are not going the right way you can still keep your cool and maintain calmness in any situation. He has modeled this my whole life. I remember a trip we took to Eureka Springs. We were just out of the state when the brakes stopped working. We called a mechanic but it was late and the weekend. We drove to the next town and were in a garage meant for semi trucks until 3 or 4 a.m. They didn’t have what was necessary to fix the car. So dad drove us to yet another little town inching closer to the cabin we had reserved… and we all slept. We woke up a few hours later and dad was gone. The car was still there. He walked five miles to a Cadillac dealership he had found out about and got the part there. He walked all the way back, no complaints, and then put the part on the car. We drove to our destination and never missed a beat. He never got mad or upset or anything. He just worked to resolve the situation. I think that is huge and a great character trait.

There are so many things along those lines learned from my parents, they were great examples… and still are today.

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Sunday, May 18th, 2008

What is one habit, negative pattern, or sin that has been passed down your family line from generation to generation that you do not want to pass down to your own family line? What steps are you taking to make sure the habit, pattern or sin is not repeated in your own family?

I know it will sound weird to say I cannot think of a single habit, negative pattern or sin passed down from generation to generation. My dad almost raised himself, his mom died shortly after giving birth to her tenth child. His dad remarried and enlisted him in the army at the age of sixteen. He turned from the life he knew and found God. He has always been a generous, good person. I think we all have habits, negative patterns and things that need to be worked out but they are all different. I sure hope I pass on good things to my kids, not negative things!

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Monday, May 12th, 2008

“What is the greatest lesson you learned from your mother or a mom like figure in your life?”

The greatest lesson… there have been many so choosing the greatest is a little difficult. I remember early lessons included talking softly because sweet little girls don’t talk loud. I attribute my soft almost childlike voice to that lesson. I learned never to sit directly on a public toilet. You either squat or use tons of paper if a seat protector is not available. I remember going into the stall and hearing mom say over the wall, “don’t sit on that toilet!” I didn’t. Much.

I was taught the lesson to always be thankful for what I was given. This lesson was harder sometimes than others. I will never forget pleading to open only one Christmas present early. I only had three. She wanted me to wait so I would have all three to open. I begged to open the smallest. She finally let me. It was batteries. She later said she wrapped them so I would have another present to open. Then there were the odd bug shaped earrings from an aunt one year. I was thankful for those earrings. I even wore them. Once.

I learned to attend church and to try to follow in the footsteps of Christ, to do the right thing. This meant being good, honest, pure, kind, generous, wholesome, sweet… I was taught that these good attributes were more important than physical beauty.

These lessons were all good and valuable. I am very glad to have received them, but I think the greatest lesson came later watching how my mother dealt with people who had hurt her. I learned that her love is never ending and unconditional. It made me see God in a new and different way. So, the greatest lesson I learned from my mother is LOVE.